How is it that girls always single-handedly manage to ruin their own lives time and again by picking the new, exciting, fresh boy over the safe, dependable option? What was that? Oh yeah, cos he's exciting and new. Guys used to be the ones with the tendency to cheat but I think this is changing. So many girls I know cheated/are cheating on their boyfriends, and the most appalling thing is that they think nothing of it, and they think it's perfectly fine. Seriously? Stuffy, preachy morals aside, that's just scary. This is really making me re-think trusting anyone/anything lately, cos it's proven- even the nicest people have displayed signs of betrayal without batting an eyelid.
A little bird just told me that a girl- a perfectly nice, sweet, pretty girl I am acquainted with broke up with her perfectly nice, sweet and adorable if slightly dorky (in a good way) boyfriend of over a year for someone she met and 'had a connection with' despite her friends telling her not to, only to get dumped 2 months later and concluded with her begging Boy A to take her back. This is the nth time I've heard this story and frankly, I'm not surprised anymore. I mean, I see why they do it- the attraction and temptation is there, and it's irresistable. But dating someone with a reputation is never going to work out, and choosing someone with a bad rep over someone with a good rep is just stupid. He has a bad rep for a reason. I get that we're only nineteen, you're not looking to settle down, you want to date and have fun blah blah blah but I really hate it when I see my guy friends- my good, nice guy friends- get dumped for some jackass, only to have the girl begging to have him back a few months later. If you don't intend to stay with someone, don't even start- is that really so hard to comprehend?
That said, girls who go for someone with a reputation despite all the warnings, saying stuff like 'You don't know him like I do', 'It's not the same, I'm not one of those stupid girls' or the even more well-used 'He will change for me, I just know it' and then eventually get their heart broken, are really asking for it. (Digressing, I'm not slamming any of these girls btw, cos put in their position, I'll probably make the same stupid choice as well.) I'm not talking about those girls who don't have an option and they go out with jackasses cos they're bored- they don't have a choice. But given the choice between the safe, dependable option, and the exciting, dangerous option (and it's not like they don't like the former, btw- they like both, it's strictly a matter of choice we're talking about.), why is it that girls always pick the latter?
This post is basically based off 2 questions that has been floating in my head for a while now- if you don't intend to make it last, don't freaking get together with someone and then dump them for some loser and break his/her heart- is it really that difficult? Secondly, why are girls so stupid?
Man, I am way too young to be this jaded.
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